At the risk of sounding like a true nerd, I’ll admit it – I enjoy spending afternoons at the library! Being surrounded by the scent of old books feels like fresh air to me and I can be surprisingly productive about my reading habit.
Yesterday I scored a copy of The Help for $0.50 that’s still in great shape and I walked away quite pleased with my purchase. Tonight I might be leaving with Where the heart is in my bag. I’ve seen both movies and the books sound incredibly promising.
Another thing about my local library: I see small kids running around everywhere and elderly citizens reading quietly at every corner – a real, lovely community. Crisp fall afternoons that feel rather cozy.
Exactly one year ago I was walking the streets of London for the very first time. I spent a weekend indulging in some fish & chips, lovely British accents everywhere and walks around Notting Hill. I was there with one of my best friends and we got to stay in a lovely wee hotel I can’t remember the name, where we spent our nights eating junk food in bed and talking about nothing and everything at the same time.
I’m feeling specially nostalgic since I haven’t seen London or said friend in little a while now and I miss them both! Luckily I have some old pictures that I can look at and help me relive some of those memories. Time just flies by, doesn’t it? I can’t believe a whole year has passed!
Here are some photos if you’d like to see 🙂
From the trivial to the big ones, sometimes I just get stuck, unable to make any decision at all. Yesterday I spent 15 minutes at the skin care aisle at my local supermarket staring at a sea of choices and it was overwhelming! I had to step back, clear my head and just grab the one that appealed to me the most. And all I was looking for was a face wash!
Psychologist Barry Schwartz explains the paradox of choice and how the old dogma of maximizing choice in order to maximize freedom is actually causing us to be miserable. The vital concept of freedom is suddenly connected with anxiety and disappointment.
Too many choices produce paralysis and we end up less satisfied with the result of our choice than we would be if there were fewer options to choose from. Too many options lead to escalating of expectations, resulting in people blaming themselves and regretting anything at all that’s disappointing about the option they chose.
Opportunity costs subtract from the satisfaction we get out of what we choose even when what we choose is terrific. There more options there are to consider the more attractive features of these options are going to be reflected by as opportunity costs.
In the end, you’ll never be pleasantly surprised because your expectations have gone through the roof.
Do you ever feel that way? The overwhelming amount of information, choices and options out there just keep expanding and every little detail of life has the potential to feel like a big decision. Not everything needs to be so excruciatingly hard like that. I’m learning to lower my standards when it comes to small, relatively insignificant decisions, like what brand of toothpaste I should buy. Less is more.
Photo by Ruth Orkin
It’s been a beautiful summer. Riding bikes between Massachusetts tiny towns, unlimited amount of ice cream with hot fudge sauce and meeting lovely, mad people who make me laugh like there’s no tomorrow.
I procrastinate and leave everything to be done at the very last minute. It’s fall, the leaves are falling, the trees are a gorgeous blend of yellow, red and orange; and I am my very own blend of confusion, stress and excitement. So much to do, so little time!
Hi, thank you for being here. I don’t know what this is about, but maybe we can teach each other one or two things. I hear the internet is a good place to create communities and connect with people. So here we go.