I love talking about relationships. As a human that’s only normal and expected, but I’m just fascinated by the dynamics in a relationship. Different people bring out different aspects of our own personality, so no dynamic is ever the same. No matter where you’re from, what you do, chances are your relationships are going to be challenging and hard to navigate at times. That complexity and mystery is one of the things that bring us all together! It’s part of being human, and I believe I’ve made a strong argument to justify my relationship obsession, haven’t it. So I’m not a creep, okay? As I’ve said before, it’s just human nature.
In my quest to find relatability and answers to answerable questions, I have a little bit too much fun reading advice columns. They are throughly entertaining and I gotta admit.. sometimes they even make you feel normal. It’s glorious! As it turns out, there are tons of people out there going through the same complicated situations as you, so we’re all in this together.
Advice columns are here to save the world, one question at a time, and here are some of the best I’ve found so far.
PS: I would love to discuss third party relationships myself and give away my very wise advice, but I’m afraid the only person who reads this blog is my mother. Occasionally. Very, very occasionally. And she ain’t need no advice, so my career has ended before it has begun. Devastating.
I don’t think E. Jean gives advice these days (sad), but if you feel like going down a rabbit hole of quick, on point advice look no longer. She doesn’t waste time or beat around the bush, the woman has no time to lose and she’s not interested in wasting your time either. Short and sweet, her quick columns are quite addictive and you’ll find yourself spending hours going through the entire archive. It’s worth it, there’s lots of knowledge on there.
Polly is quite the opposite of E Jean: get comfortable in your chair, it’s gonna be a looooong read. No quick advice here, Polly goes deep and she really elaborates on each answer. It’s like getting some sort of free therapy. From friendships to disappointing partners, to mental health, there’s definitely something in there for you.
Carolyn’s answers are concise, wise, and she sounds like a friend you would actually listen to. She’s been doing this for over 20 years, so you know you can trust her advice.
Lori Gottlieb, an actual therapist, has plenty of good advice to offer. It’s great to approach things the way therapists do. She doesn’t tell you what to do, but she helps you analyse the situation from all angles and come to your own conclusions. She’s wise and thoughtful and I loved her book, too.
The advice column speaking straight into your ears. I never actually read the column, but I’ve listened to probably hundreds of podcast episodes. Cheryl Strayed and Steve Almond are both compassionate, empathetic people who give kind but truthful advice. The podcast is no longer being produced, but there are countless episodes available and they are a treat to listen to. Highly reccommend.
I’m sure there are many more wonderful columnists out there sharing amazing advice, but these are the ones I find myself going back to from time to time. If you have a favourite column I haven’t listed here, please let me know in the comments! Ya girl loves some advice.