I’ve been thinking about what makes one elegant, since I want to be an elegant being myself. I guess it’s more than wearing expensive brands and going to fancy parties, isn’t it?
Some people just seem to have it in them. The way they seem to easily navigate through different environments and charmingly engage with different people. When I think of elegance I think of radiance instead of perfection. Like Samin Nosrat: she speaks multiple languages with such ease and gracefulness (if you’ve watched Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat on Netflix you know what I’m talking about). She laughs a big, contagious laugh, the kind of laughter that warms you up like a cozy blanket on a crisp autumn morning, and you just want to hug her. She’s not out there wearing fancy clothes and high heels, but she has all this charm and elegance.
I think that also comes from being comfortable in your own skin and owning who you are. I’m fascinated with people like that! The way they carry themselves with confidence, handling life’s challenges with so much poise and grace, in control of their emotions and mindful of their words and actions. Me, I’m a bit of a klutz, so I need to work on becoming more aware of my body and its movements. Baby steps!!
Oh, having a sense of humor is imperative! And today I crossed paths with a guy that smelled so good, and that was lovely, so smelling nice also goes on the list. Very important.
It’s still a mystery to me how some women manage to look perfectly elegant while sporting messy hair and no makeup, like it’s not a big deal at all. But I guess there are tons of different of being elegant from Samin Nosrat to Audrey Hepburn to Justin Trudeau. And I’m taking notes on all of the them.
Now tell me, what is elegance to you?
Illustration by Sasha Ignatiadou