They don’t understand queuing; buying groceries can turn into a stressful experience – they scan the items much faster than you can bag them so you have to move fast, and there’s never a friendly chit chat involved. They love rules and take little things far too seriously but trust me on this: the trains here are always late!! Shocking.
I still don’t fully understand the German culture and habits, but I’ve come to slowly appreciate a lot of aspects about it. I’m not the only one – there are hundreds of books on the subject. People from all over the world trying to understand things like why you can’t mown your lawn on Sundays, and what is it about curry wurst that they love so much. It’s like being part of a little club, the outsiders club. Having said that, there’s a lot to admire and learn from the Germans, and there’s one particular thing I seem to love the most…
One thing I’ve noticed since moving here is how many elderly couples I see everywhere. They’re usually very active and out and about. The ladies wear short skirts and short dresses in the summer and there’s no judgement or shaming or feeling uncomfortable (and that’s another thing I love about it, there doesn’t seem to be that obsession with youth that make older woman feel invisible and obsolete), they just look beautiful.
So, I see so many elder couples walking around, holding hands and taking care of each other. It’s the most endearing thing and it never fails to melt my heart. They seem to genuinely enjoy each other’s company and I’m amazed to see couples thriving after years of marriage. That’s just beautiful. Whenever I’m at a coffee shop or restaurant I always notice how the woman usually sits at the table while the man goes around the place grabbing sugar, cutlery, or anything his lady needs and brings it to her. I’ve seen it so many times and I find it so sweet. Does this make me too old fashioned, or are my standards too low? (I’m a feminist okay!) haha Either way, the one thing I take from all this observation is that that’s the kind of marriage I hope to someday have: growing old together, a lifetime of history and experiences behind us, a lot of fun and experiences ahead, and a lovely partner who’s going to run around the restaurant bringing me my food while I sit pretty and wait.